My alcoholic mom wanted to come to my graduation. We hadn’t spoken since she texted me threatening to kill herself the Christmas Eve before, so out of anger there “weren’t enough tickets”. A week later I found out that she had overdosed alone in her apartment on alcohol and took too much of her prescription meds.
After hearing the news of her death my dad called his narcissistic girlfriend and told her with my boyfriend in the car. My boyfriend heard her through the phone say “well you’re still coming to dinner, right? She should be with that side of the family anyways”. My dad told me the news and left a half an hour later to eat dinner with this woman who had psychologically abused me for years.
He is still with her. She has told me that “I don’t have the guts to kill myself” when I was suicidal and that I was the “anti-Christ” for not being able to control the intrusive thoughts that come with OCD. She’d punish me for having too many intrusive thoughts and alienate me from my father and her children. She even called my local church to try to get me to have an exorcism. An exorcism in 2016, as if.
Trying to communicate how much him being with her hurts me is something I’ve tried to get him to understand in every way, shape, and form I can think of. He’s damaged by this relationship and her narcissism, and is too stifled on the idea that men don’t “need” therapy. Every time I mention how good it would be for him he turns it into a joke.
I feel like I’m losing the only parent I have left.
TL/DR: My dad is still dating a woman who is abusive, how should I get him to start seeing a therapist?